Everyone can generally stereotype themselves as either an extrovert or an introvert. Depending who you’re around, you could be one or the other. Or perhaps, you’re fighting that internal battle of introvert stuck in an extroverts life.
In our heads we have the stereotypical images of both the ‘verts’ (it’s the lingo okay). The introverts are the ones that, after being dragged to the party, stand awkwardly near the punch table, lubricating themselves with alcohol to ready themselves just in case they’re put in the horrific situation of talking to someone they don’t know. An extrovert at the party will be the one commanding attention – doing keg handstands and mixing and mingling with friends and strangers alike without a care in the world.
As an introvert who doesn’t always appear to be an introvert in social situations, but is indeed one (keeping up?) I thought it was time to call bullshit on the legendary myths surrounding many of my fellow introverts. Here we go:
Myth 1: Introverts are shy people
Not necessarily. From a personal perspective am I shy when meeting new people? Sometimes. But in general, not so much. Having said this, introverts are not necessarily afraid of meeting or interacting with new people – they may just tend to be more on the quieter side or not feel the need to talk as much. Many introverts actually just don’t like small talk all that much. Let’s be real, sometimes it’s boring as fuck. Like most people, if you’re talking about something they are specifically interested in, then you’ll get a lot more engagement.
Myth 2: Introverts are socially awkward and bad at meeting new people
Much like the above, introverts aren’t all that bad at meeting new people. It’s more about finding common ground. Many introverts just suck at small talk at the end of the day, but it doesn’t have to mean they’re socially awkward. Get them warmed up on a topic they’re interested in, or at least have an opinion on, and good luck getting them to shut up.
Myth 3: Introverts are rude
Some people tend to think others a rude when they aren’t animately engaged in a conversation. Look – there’s being polite and pretending to be interested in someone’s conversation, then there’s the extreme situation where someone won’t shut up on a topic you don’t care about and it gets really hard to feign interest anymore. That goes for everyone, not just introverts. The difference can be that extroverts are people pleasers at the end of the day and are better at pretending – introverts, not so much.
Myth 4: Introverts just don’t LIKE other people. At all.
Yeah and they probably kick puppies and trip over kids in their spare time too.
Myth 5: Introverts always want to be alone
Introverts like being alone but it doesn’t mean they always want to be. Interestingly, many sites now report that introverts perhaps crave being alone more than their extrovert counterparts, because they can find the energy of others to get draining, where as extroverts feed off that same buzz.
Myth 6: Introverts dislike extroverts
Maybe some do, but again, that’s just stereotyping the masses. I consider myself an introverted person and I definitely have many extroverted friends – I’d go as far to say that I have more extroverted friends that introverted ones. In some ways its great – if I’m too emotionally drained at a gathering they can just talk and I can just sit there thinking about the time when I was 10 and I thought I was going to be the next Britney Spears.
Myth 7: Introverts prefer to stay at home rather than party
Nah, just give them some wine, they’ll perk up.
Look a person who does like to be alone from time to time, may not be found at every pumping nightclub or party on a weekend. But they’ll be sure to make appearances. And who knows, they may just even turn out to be the life of the party.